Why Men Cheat in Review - What every woman should know
75Why Men Cheat? Do Women allow men to cheat?
Well according to the acclaimed bad boy himself, Baisden says that its because woman allow men to cheat, not that they promote it but they allow it to happen.
Because they are too comfortable with the relationship or they are too caught up to let the cheater go. Other reasons mentioned were that the ratio of woman to men is so high that its hard for a red blooded male not to be tempted.
What Some are saying about a cheating spouse
Some say its because the girlfriend, wife or significant other is slacking at home, either not giving her mate the attention he needs or that the wife or girlfried are not willing to be open-minded enough to be more adventurous in the sheets.
I have heard that it was not something the guy planned to happen, it just happened, like a accident.. one thing lead to another.
What about The Other Woman
The Other woman that he cheats with have said that it was because the man needed someone to listen to him and understand the pressure he is under at work and how important it is for the woman in his life to be more understanding.
Do you agree that it has been argued that some woman make it unpleasant for a man to be himself, either she is too critical, demanding, nagging, always in a bad mood, makes him feel like she is alway disappointed in everything he tries to do for her.
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Do Men cheat when the thrill is gone
Some say its because the thrill is gone, that what once started out as a heated fire has turned into cold ice. No more spark or excitement.
Boredom has been one reason men cheat. The same thing, in the same way, all the time became to routine and no longer interesting.
Control has been another issue, some woman say they take care of their man giving him attention, and trying to keep him happy while she works many hours at the office or going to school to better herself.
Some men feel that if the woman is too independent she does not need him and so he cheats with a woman who is less experienced and less accomplished in her life.
Men Cheat Because they Can
Six Reasons Why Men Cheat
What are the signs he is cheating on you what women want to know
Keeping up appearances , men will say that the girls in their lives have not kept themselves looking sexy or mysterious, what do you think?
Keep the fire alive, he says that the fire is gone. How do you reignite the flame
You treat him like a child you nag and are bossy, he wants the fun loving woman he fell in love with, Can you be more fun and less demanding?
Men who get in a rut or ordinary routine may want to get out and play with someone new, is it instinctive? or is it an excuse to wander?
So men cheat because it is a biological response, they need to try out a new landscape and its not about Love its more about the thrill of the hunt, different body, different woman, new experiences.
So is all hope gone for woman who love too much? Its just sex nothing personal, he can separate it to just a recreational activity. Now okay its out...
Is a guys age a contributing factor?
Do younger men cheat more than older men? it could be a question that will never be known for sure, what is known that when men get older the woman they want to date stays the same age.
So if as a young man they dated girls 18 to 23 years old, once they turned 40 it seems they are still dating woman in that age range.
So if you are a woman over 30 most likely the man you are dating, married to or living with is cheating on you with a younger woman, or I guess to be politically correct they could be cheating on you with a younger man as well.
So what can older woman do about this situation, not much accept maybe be more secure and confident with themselves and seek a good support system of friends.
How Old are the Women that Men Cheat with?
Are the men cheating with woman who are younger than they are? could this be the reason for so many divorces and broken marriages. As a man gets older does he need validation to prove to himself he still "got it"? it could be his ego or it could be a stage he is going through.
Over 40 and under 30 that seems to be the ages that women can classify themselves as being when it comes to dating, maybe it is a reason for cheating as well.
What do men really want?
All in all it comes down to getting his groove on.. no talking, no planning, no hassle. Just getting it when he wants it and how he likes it ...period.
I would have to say if you really want to know why a man cheats. Please read the book by Michael Baisden called Never Satisfied.. It will open your eyes thats for sure.
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It takes two to tango.... and all the above reason's are probably true..To me HONESTY is number one...you can say anything you want...but it's what you do that counts and there is always 2 sides to a story..God Love em G-Ma :O)
I think its because of that "the grass is always greener" saying that makes men curious. I think 90% of male cheaters never plan too but its too easy to mess up, especially w/ alcohol involved.
I agree it takes two people to be fully commited and work hard at a relationship, especially if they feel it is worth the effort.
My opinion is strong on this issue. I may sound naive but if a man or a woman makes a commitment to someone they love, Cheating is inexcusable, unexceptable and reprehensable. I have never ever cheated and I have been in situations where it would have been easy o do so. If a Man or a WOMAN is honest loyal and is of strong morals than it should never ever be week enough to fail in a commited relationship. It is a simple choice of yes I will or No I won't. If one is honest wth oneselfe and is truly commited, one will always make the correct decision and will not fall to temptation. I myself would die from the quilt if I would have ever cheated. It truly comes down to a simple choice yes or no. The persons morals, ethics and values (if they are right) will always lead the way to thye correct decision. But I suppose a dinosaur such as myself is a dying breed. However I like the fact that I can and do say no to temptation. I am sorry if I am a n old fashion old fart, but I know I am right inmy mind.
Nice Hub BTW. You just got yourself a new groupy LOL
PK
Poetic Knight it sure is great to hear that you value commitment in a relationship, I think that is really what it is all about, each person has to decide what they value in life.
Great hub - I think men cheat because they're horny, and when they get caught, they use some excuse. But to me, it's just a cop out - like Poetic Knight said - if you have strong enough morals you will not cheat. I think women put up with too much from men, and thereby "allow" them to cheat.
Working Mom you do have a point there.
- Some men cheat because they may be accused of cheating by an overly insecure woman even when they're not - so after a while they say F-it! and cheat anyway.
- Some men cheat because the other woman makes them feel more appreciated.
- And of course a lot of men cheat because they're just flat out Dogs.
I see what your saying, I was reading something that said that it is in a mans genes to cheat, like its biological. I would say from a scientific stand point it is to keep the earth from becoming extent and men are here to spread their seeds to keep procreation going, but of course that is not what women want to hear. LOL
ok im a man and i see all of your point of views but imgoing to speak from my perspective on this topic. ok why do men cheat i cant sit here and talk about all men because there is honestly some men out there holding there women down and doing whats right but ima say this..... every case is different with men because we as ppl are not the same, some men do it just because they can, or becuase all the female want them and its to easy, some men just get it thrown at them and its hard for a man to even turn down that offer, some may have trust issues that they are dealing with mentally they always believe that there women is cheating because unfortunatly some women are scandalous. there are many reasons why a man cheats but heres mine, i was in a commited relationship with a women every thing was good like how all relationships start out but in a way as a women she wasnt handling her business. i mean i do whatever it took to make her happy give her messages cook for her all types of sweat stuff and in the bedroom put it down on her, have her shakin and all lol, thats besides the point , but jus like women need intimacy and have they urges we get our urges to and personally i love sex im not gonna deny it but every time i wanted it there be a problem but whenever she wanted it she knew i would always be there. we would go 2 maybe 3 wks at a time without having sex maybe a little longer which was cool at first cause i wasnt in it for the sex but you can only keep a man waiting for so long until he goes out looking. not only that she wasnt making the effort to try i even brought it to her attention like hey me and you are lacking intimacy i dont care what nobody says its plays a big role in a relationship , so i told her and waited for her to make the change and make it happen she stayed the same ( but i loved her )you know , but as the saying goes if you dont make the time or do your significant other right then someone else will. so my thing is not that i am a cheater or i cheat its the fact that if a women did what she was suppose to do and handle her business in the streets and in the bedroom that would be no or should not be any problems in my eyes. i know theres some women out there that are probably saying well i do do that but like i said i can only speak for myself not everyone else. and i felt maybe my story would help somebody understand becuase maybe this situation is going on in your household. so for both parties male and female both need to take charge and handle there business it just can be a one man or one women show. welp hopefully i could help somebody out with my story and maybe it could help give one reason why a man woulg go looking elsewere . o and by the way i am only 22 i know i sound very mature for my age thank you thank you lol.
Thanks reek inferno for sharing your story, its nice to have the male perspective on the situation.
The urge to cheat is always there in every human being but the ability to withstand the temptation makes the difference. Cheating is not limited to men alone, the women are guilty as well. There are reasons why couples cheat each other, it may be due to loneliness, abandonment, financial difficulty, sex, etc. Whatever be the case, it is morally wrong in the sight of God and man to cheat.
I like the many excuses men have for cheating -- they blame the woman because they can't actually MAN UP to acknowledging the relationship is going downhill? That's so trifling.
So basically, instead of acknowledging that I'm broke, I'll just go out and steal, then blame the bank for not putting money in my account.
I agree, it takes two people to make a relationship work, it all depends on what a couple chooses to have in their courtship, either they want commitment for the long haul or they want just companionship for the now.
Men cheat because they are ego driven indivuduals who's whole self and self esteem is based on women finding them attractive, the same goes for women. How many times have I been shoked by some fat, ugly man or woman for matter having an affair and listen to them boast about it!! great hub, thank you.
Vicky Webb I have known guys like that. Human attraction is biological as you know. The cheating thing comes from Religion. Certainly you are aware of this. The only way to not cheat as you call it is to ignore your natural biological urge with??? Fear? Logic? Common sense ;-) Great Hub!
My opinion is that if I man or woman is having issues within a relationship, whether it be physical or emotional, they NEED to talk to their SO about it. If they don't then the other party doesn't know and cannot fix it. They might think every thing is peachy. If you do bring the issue to the attention of the SO and things do not improve, then break it off with her/him. I, as a woman, would much rather be broken up with than be cheated on. If you don't want to completely break it off with her/him because you love them, then temporarily separate or talk about having an 'open' relationship. If you really do love each other then that 'open' relationship will go back to being closed within a few weeks.
I realize that men have needs, however, any excuse for cheating is bull shit in my opinion. Same goes for women. Cheating on your man/woman is one of the worst disrespecting, slap in the face things you can do.
But just remember, once a man/woman cheats once and gets away with (whether by not being caught or being forgiven) most likely he/she will do it again and again. Nice hub.
a husband can cheat his wife only if she neglect his activities.....because by birth they(mens) have the sense of cheating.
Okay, im a very good looking woman n i have an awesome personality, im 28 n he's 32, i always gave it to my man even i even dress up, even when we had a hard time in our 9 yr relationship i still made sure we were both satisfied n he cheated on me with a chick 2 yrs older than me, she had sex w everyone we know including his brothers, am 5'7" athletic body w a great booty sexy legs, long dark straight hair w some highlights, pretty frickin hot! And i am the mother of his 2 children! The trollip he cheated on me w was a drug attic bad! Like 5'4" and chuncky as he'll, stretch marks all over n cellulite legs n butt, long hair but a pretty manly face, n im speakin the truth im not exaggerating, she fits the "hood rat" look. Is drugs n alchohol really that strong! Cuz i always kept him happy n let him do what he did, never was too jealous, but serious! I let him be himself i got along w all his friends n family i am really a cool ass chick! I can get down w the boys but also am very classy n sexy n def spice it up in the bedroom! He really got lucky w me! So i feel i've done everything i should have to please him in all areas of his life... what's the excuse to cheat w a nasty drug addicted who're that's had sex w EVERYONE we know n he knows how nasty she is! He denied it to everyone cuz he was so embarraced!
Jennifer, your scenerio is a common one and even after all logical reasons are addressed it is hard to know what is going through a mans mind when he makes the decisions he makes.
Maybe the simple truth is that he is not using his mind at all. Either way it does not excuse his behavior.
My ex cheated on me the entire 5 yrs we were together ( on/off). I'd suspect a woman and he'd deny. He'd sweet talk me back and we'd try it again. He'd be great for a month - and then.. bam. back on the internet cruising for women stating he was SINGLE. Had MANY "girlfriends" that I knew nothing about - just found names/phone numbers. Later found out they knew NOTHING about ME and we were ENGAGED! Never felt so disrespected and used. Took me 5 yrs - to the MONTH. But I kicked his a** to the curb and will NEVER look back. I DESERVE BETTER. AND SO DO YOU, LADIES!!! If the guy can't adore you - you're with the WRONG dude.
Thanks for letting others see that there is always room for making a change especially if one sees that the present situation they are in is not good for them.
this hub was really nice and true as well. i liked it
Trust is especially important in a relationship. I would have to say that females cheat as well but it seems that it's more acceptable and well-known that men cheat. The last part about men dating the same age group even as they get older was really interesting, and there should be more studies about this to see what the trends are.
Men cheat just as much as females, indeed people are not the same but of course as human beings we tend to have similarities in the way we behave. I believe men most of the time want to find a reason to cheat for example if say during courtship they used to have have sex every time an opportunity presents itself and now in marriage it becomes erratic that in itself becomes a reason.One thing that needs to be closely looked at is that men are easily turned on even just by looking at this sexy curvy and inviting boobs blond - they it goes a hard on but our ladies its different. Someone said that's why even the manhood is outside and our female friends inside.This should not in any way justify cheating which I honestly believe is wrong. But I would also want someone to honestly give me a very varied reason as to why women would cheat on their husbands/boy friends and ultimately have a child from the other man and let their husband/boy friend raise a child that is no theirs and keep quite forever or until the child is about to marry and then real father resurfaces people please help
MEN CANNOT BE SATISFIED NO MATTER WHAT BCOZ YOU CAN GV HIM EVERYTHING BUT IF HE STL WNT 2 CHEAT HE WILe.gWhn i was 1st year student,he tld m dat he dsnt get me whn he nids me den i mk an effort of seeing him atleast once a month bt i fnd dat he is cheating wth young n older womans dan him n alwys he make excuses n he sed m d rizin coz m far away n he dsnt bliv in lng distance relationshp bt whn i tld him 2 liv m alone n continue wth hiz GFs he cries n guys now i dnt knw wht 2 du bcoz i dnt wnt 2 cheat bt rly now m lonely n bored evn though he iz arnd.
I don't think that's exactly true men can have an amazing woman and cheat I know females who have experienced it first hand and the same for woman were just not out there with ours.
I think that all this excuses are bulls++t about why men cheat or why anyone would cheat. I might give the alcohol excuses a passed because you were not 100 percent there. However, I am a female and been married for 8 year on what I consider not a perfect marriage. However I gave it 120 % to make work gave it to him all the time. If he wants it, he got it. I was open mind to try to keep it from getting boring. However, he still cheated. I was even understanding, the person that would even listen even if he was talking about his ex. that would trip for certain stuff but not for to long just to make my voice heard. I had million of opportunity to cheat as a female in the military but I love him so much beyond the reason why that I suck my need while I was deployed thinking that he was being faithful. I know I was stupid and should have seen the sign, but I was so busy trying to make the relationship work that didn’t see that he had always cheated on me. He got caught said he is sorry, yet to me he still trying to cheat and as soon as he got enough time to do he will. I can forgive anyone mistake if you are sorry but I am not going to sit here and be dumb mistreat wife, while another woman that have no respect for self or other get the best part of what is mine. I rather being sad alone than with bad company either he value me or I am out to find a better place.
As a male, I cannot refute the possibility that men may cheat for many reasons. I can say however, that a married man who eventually finds himself, not with an enthusiastic wife, but instead a roommate, may be inclined to cheat when all efforts to remedy the situation have failed. A married male has every right to expect his wifes affection and attention in the marriage. He didn't marry her to be his mother or housekeeper, he married her for love, affection, companionship and, yes, sex too. Given sufficient inattention by her and her displaying a sufficient lack of concern to resolve and remedy the situation, even years in some cases, it would take a very strong male to resist looking for affection in the arms of another woman.
Cheating and lying in a relationship is a failure of intimacy. If the pair were honest and respectful of each other they could say how they felt and ask for what they wanted, or get out of the relationship so there'd be no need for cheating and lying. Truthful communication is a must in a relationship and it is a lot of work to open yourself up completely to another. Cheating and lying arise from character flaws such as laziness and lack of self-respect and selfishness and inability to truly love. It is never the mate's fault when the cheater cheats. Cheaters are morally dysfunctional human beings.
MrMarmalade 4 years ago
I think one has to be honest with one self. It's always easier to blame someone else.